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    • #MFRWauthor Week 18: Bright Lights or Peaceful Nights?

      Posted at 2:37 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on May 1, 2020
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      Marketing for Romance Writers 52-Week Blog Challenge. Goodness, we’re at Week 18.

      Sometimes it feels like the time is flying by, doesn’t it? Other times it drags. Drags because we don’t know what we’re waiting for, to be honest.

      One thing for sure though—people around the entire world are waiting for better days—normal days to return. Will it ever be the “normal” we once knew? I think it will be a long time from now before we’ll see normalcy. Any-who, since we aren’t going anywhere, let’s get to the topic for Week 18.


      City Living or Country?

      Can I say both? I could answer this with those four words, but you know me…

      I’d like my primary home to be in the country. I’m not where I live now, but it feels like it when I look out and see the woodlands around me or when I stroll through my small-town. Today, I glanced outside in time to see a pair of ducks waddling past my window. My first thought was for them to take cover before a hawk spotted them.

      Mother turkey with babies, front yard, trees, Mary J McCoy-Dressel

      Turkeys a couple of years ago.

      Later, a FedEx truck slowing down on the road into this complex got my attention. Since I had been walking through the apartment getting in my daily steps, I glanced out the window to see the biggest live turkey I’ve ever seen—tail feathers and all—strutting down the road ahead of FedEx. I smiled.

      Last year a coyote died beneath my bedroom window! Sad. They stroll through the parking lot at night. My cousin, who lives behind me in the same building, sees deer each evening at dusk, and the ducks because the river is down the hill. Sounds like country, huh?

      In the past, I had property in the Allegheny Mountains in Pennsylvania in the Allegheny National Forest where bear came through in the wee morning hour to examine our fire pit. I’ve mentioned before how I came upon a black bear while strolling down the road

      country pole barn garage, Pennsylvania, black and white, forest behind barn, Mary J McCoy-Dressel, blog post country or city

      Allegheny Mountains.

      alone, with the bear between me and home!

      Deer were aplenty. We had nearly twenty acres and some of that acreage had apple trees right down the hill and to the right of this garage at the family section of the property. We had a place down the road. I spotted a wild cat through my camera lens one evening while waiting for a sunset. Yes, I’ve had experience with country living, and I LIKE IT!

      However, I’d like an apartment or a time-share in the city for a change of pace. Cities are beautiful at Christmastime with all the decorations. I’d hate to miss that part of city living, but I’d want to be back in my country home for Christmas Eve.

      I wonder how many days it would take to become accustomed to city noise and traffic.

      If you had a choice, which would you prefer? Or are you a rebel like me and choose both?


      Since this is a blog hop, here’s the LINK to participating authors who are answering the same question.

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

      Take care everyone. Stay safe. Stay home.

      Featured Image Credit: Pixabay – Free-photos

      This big guy rambled out of the woods this morning. I heard a gobble, gobble and ran to the window. I bet my jaw dropped! I took a quick shot. Forgive the bad picture through the window with the sun glare. I think he’s looking for a cute little turkey to have his babies.

      Early morning stroll.

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    • #AmWriting Week 27: Glitz it up! Or Not #MFRWauthor #WritersLife

      Posted at 9:23 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on July 5, 2019
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      Week 27: Dressing Up: Chore or Pleasure?

      I have the boots in the picture above! That says it all. <wink> As much as I hate to admit it, getting dressed up is more of a chore than a pleasure. I’ve lost weight and have more to lose, so I’d have to buy a new dressy dress outfit. Don’t get me wrong, I love shopping, and yes, I should be prepared for a pop-up night out without running to the store first. Who am I fooling? I’m not good with unexpected proposals to go out.

      The dressiest affair I have ever attended was my best friend’s daughter’s summer wedding. Yes, dressier than my own small wedding. I wore a sexy little size six, short red dress and climbed up into my shiny “red” Ram pickup truck–my Lady in Red, while my husband’s mouth watered in the driveway. Haha. He chose not to accompany me. His loss. My first love was there. He noticed and complimented! True story.

      Preparing back in the day had been a pleasure. I remember my youngest son, a young man of around eighteen then, taking me aside at the wedding, saying, “Mom, men are checking you out.” He was the one shocked.

      As recent as last week, my daughter-in-law came to town for work. She wanted to take me out for my birthday. In this case, I knew it would be fun, and I was happy to see her, so getting somewhat dressed up for this occasion had been a pleasure.

      Being a stay-at-home writer, my daily dress is casual. Choosing to dress up to go out now means I have to get away from my characters to do something for myself. Remaining casual has become a habit, so it’s more normal for me to throw on a nice but casual outfit to go out with friends. It’s been ages since I’ve gone to a classy or dressy affair.

      The thought of searching for clothing for an extravagant or glitzy outing, is definitely a chore. I wish it was different, but I’ve grown accustom to this lifestyle, and it’s the norm. It’s hard to break out of the habit of dressing casual and comfortable. Loungewear comes on when the sun goes down and never sees the outside.

      The last time I went to the opera or symphony, I dressed business-casual and looked nice, but getting ready had been a chore, so I was torn between it being a chore or pleasurable. I glitzed the business aspect of it up a level with jewelry, dressy coat, and more dramatic makeup. As I “came together” that night, I felt great about how I looked.

      At the opera and symphony, you see a bit of everything from jeans to long formal dresses. I fit somewhere in between, and it was a pleasure. In my dreams, I’d dress like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman or Cher in Moonstruck and head out the door with my head held high.

      In reality, dressing up is a chore these days, but I’m happy to go through the chore of preparing for the right occasion. How about you, dear blog readers. Oh, what about men? Is it a chore or a pleasure for you to get dressed up? I’m curious to know. Guys, I have to tell you and this is my opinion, but… Seeing you in a tux never gets old. <grin>

       

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019Hop on over to follow this LINK to the other blog hop participants.

       

       

      Thanks for reading!


      Happy belated Canada Day to my Canadian friends across the river from me, and a Happy Fourth of July to my fellow Americans.

      I hope none of you were in the earthquake in California.

      Be safe everyone.

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    • #AmWriting Plot or Pantzer/ Pantser/ Plantser? Week 19 #MFRWauthor

      Posted at 8:40 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on May 11, 2019
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      Week 19: Plotter or Pantzer, and why?

      Saturday. Six-thirty a.m. I missed the Linky deadline to post my blog link on the Marketing for Romance Writers Blog. I’m on my own here without the #MFRWauthor group, but I’m posting, anyway. Such is life. Therefore, my post for the 52-Week Blog Challenge this week is late.

      My grammar checker does not like the word pantzer / pantster / pantser, and it certainly doesn’t like p-l-a-n-t-s-e-r, which is what I am — plotter and pantser. I’m spelling the word in multiple ways in this post. My editor will come through the screen to slap me if she sees this inconsistency. It’s all in fun for this post.

      I’ve moved from being a one-hundred percent pantser to around fifty percent plotter. Regardless, I’ll always allow my plantser to do what she does no matter the percentage stated.

      To give a short answer, I’ve become both.

      Why?  

      • I plot for direction, tentative word count, to keep on track, and to make sure to cover all the basis needed to bring a story to the proper ending–the happily-ever-after, in my case.
      • I write by the seat of my pants to give my muse free rein, allow creativity to run free, and to surprise myself with what might come next.

      However, for an upcoming book to be published this year, I did something different. It’s a brand-new series, setting, and characters not related to my other series. I had to start from scratch with a new setting and new family. It also begins a new story bible for the series.

      For the first book, I had to set it up and make plans for the rest of the books and characters. This takes plotting and planning, but it takes writing by the seat of my pants too. Oh, and I had a certain amount of elements to add because of a collaboration with other authors, which gave me more direction.

      What did I do different?

      Story Beats:

      THIS TIME, I laid out a plan using story beats. My plantser does as she/he/they please with the story as long as the story beats are followed and met.

      Story beats give me a road map. (I credit author Jeri Gold and her romance beat sheet for this.)

      My pantser will always have free rein in a story whether I begin plotting or writing freely. If I don’t have a semi-detailed plan in the beginning when I pantser write, I will have one after starting a book. My goal at first is to start writing Chapter One to get the original idea in story form so I can see it on the screen in words instead of an idea in my head. This chapter one will go through multiple revisions, get moved, or even deleted. Even with using story beats.

      To stay within a word count, I think almost one-hundred percent plotting is necessary and makes sense. When my plantser is writing, I aim for a rough word count, but this number isn’t carved in stone. I’m trying to write shorter books, which for me is below the hundred thousand count. A lot of plotters use an outline. I don’t. Plotting out each chapter and scene and sticking to it, doesn’t work for me. My plantser won’t be silenced, and I can’t say I mind. It wouldn’t be fair if I tried.

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

      What about other authors? If you’re interested in knowing if other authors in the group are pantsers or plotters, check out their links at the Marketing for Romance Writers Blog.


      If you’re a mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunt or uncle, or a mom in any capacity, Happy Mother’s Day to you. 

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, Mothers Day greeting, red rose white background,

      Enjoy your weekend. 

       

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    • #AmWriting Book Talk: Farewell My Lovelies #MFRWauthor

      Posted at 8:41 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on April 19, 2019

      blog post Farewell my Lovelies, Mary J McCoy-Dressel Books, Western Romance, #MFRWauthor 52-week blog challenge post week 16

      It’s Friday. Join us for another Marketing for Romance Writers 52-Week Blog Challenge post. However, I must tell you this is a copy of a post written for this topic in a previous year. Wait, don’t leave.

      I’ve written The End on new books since then so a little has changed in the celebrating department. I have revised this copied post in brief to update and add changes. The first change is rewriting the topic as given to us this week in 2019.

      Week 16: The End: A Time for Celebration?

      Yes, I celebrate but in subtle ways. When I finish my work and it’s ready to go, I’ll smile and tell my hero and his heroine they are free to go out into the world. I will miss them when it’s over. This is another reason I write a series. I get to see them again and again.

      I don’t celebrate like I should or have a big to-do (outside of my mind). I take little down-time after finishing a book either in a draft or a true ending. Another thing I do is give myself a silent praise or a pat on the back.

      I wrote an ENDING to a new book within the last two weeks. Yay! YAY! Bringing this book to an end had been a struggle to find the perfect ending. If any of my endings deserved a celebration, this one did. The book still has to see the editor, so I will revisit this book. It isn’t due out until November, but I might push it up to October.

      At writing the ending, I shouted it on social media and celebrated with their Likes and Comments. I told my close friends. Many of them have heard a little about the story, so I relished in their pride for me. Then, alone with myself, I stepped away from the book wondering what the heck to do now. I already missed my hero and heroine, the setting, and I wanted to go back to them. Albeit, in the coming days, I subtly celebrated with Netflix, watched movies, enjoyed a couple lunches with friends as we talked about the book, and I finished “reading” a book I had started a while ago.

      I breathed.


      Well, it had been a short-lived break. Another book waited. Knowing me, I will celebrate the same way when this book is published, but my heart will be pounding and nerves-a-shakin’ because it will have been sent into the world.

      In the meantime: 

      It was time to get back to work. I stuck my hands back on my keyboard.

      Previous to writing the end to said book, I had another book started, as I usually do though this time I took more breaks than usual and shopped for a couple new outfits. I allowed myself to breathe with time to myself away from the keyboard, before taking the next book to its own ending, which I’m doing now.

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, Western Romance Blog Post Celebration when completing a novel.

      Thanks for reading.


      This is the time to hop on over to check out the #MFRWauthor Blog to find other participating author links. This year there are new authors participating. Not new as in “brand-new authors,” but new to the 52-Week Blog Challenge.

      See ya next time.

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

      NOTE: Authors and readers? Do you think pushing up my release date to October is a bad time because of Halloween and other paranormal books being released? I don’t want my release to be buried. Hah, pun intended. 👻💀

      Happy Writing and Reading.

       

      Photo credits: Pixabay.

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    • #AmWriting Swaying With The Tunes #MFRWauthor

      Posted at 6:11 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on February 22, 2019
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      Week 8:

      What music, if any, do you prefer to write by?

      Here we are at Week Eight in our #MFRWauthor 52-Week Blog Challenge and a new topic.

      It used to be, I could sit down and write to music without a problem. It’s different now. Music becomes a distraction in certain phases of writing a book—like the first draft or working on big edits where I might have to concentrate. However, I can have it on low in the background without being bothered a lot of the time.

      Is it because I’m getting older, or is it because I have so much going on in my head at the same time?

      I used to love listening to music while writing my drafts. I miss it. Maybe I should try again. I have the perfect opportunity since I’m writing a first draft now while another finished draft sits to gel before revisions.

      I’m not a one-kind-of-music gal, but my priority and first choices are country, again.

      The Bull Rider Series brought me back to country music after being away for years while I listened to easy or soft rock in the interim. I gave up country music for a time. I’ll never again give up my kind of music for someone else.

      I’m fickle with what I listen to when writing. My mood, a character, or a scene determines what I listen to.

      The gentle rhythmic sway of Enya’s music allows my muse to do her thing and words to flow in writing love scenes.

      Sometimes soft rock still works for me.

      I’ve said this in previous posts, but while writing my Italian heroine, I listened to opera and discovered Vittorio Grigolo. I fell in love with his voice. My heroine’s favorite Italian tenor became mine. This led me to going to operas and Phantom of the Opera. Yeeha!

      While writing Christmas stories, I listen to Christmas music. Do you? In another Christmas novel, I added Oldies to my playlist because it was my heroine’s favorite. It helps set the scene.

      While writing, Roxanne, my dancer, I listened to Latin music and found some sexy dance videos.

      This proves how fickle I am with music while writing. Guess what? I have country music playing in the background right now on my Pandora playlist—Clay Walker.

      For newcomers to my blog, this is a blog hop. Let’s see what the other authors have to say about music and writing by clicking HERE or the image below.

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

      Enjoy your weekend. Didn’t I write that like yesterday instead of a week ago?

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    • #MFRWauthor Giving and Taking Advice: Helpful or Not?

      Posted at 5:22 pm by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on February 15, 2019

      Week #7 #MFRWauthor

      Giving and Taking Advice: How it can help?

       

      Oh, hi, I’m back for this week’s challenge. I seem to have lost my blogging mojo. After missing a few weeks, I thought I better find a way to jump back into the 52-Week Blog Challenge this week. It’s only February, so I’ve already blown it if I thought I could make the whole year. Sheesh, I’m even late with this post.

      How can giving and taking advice be helpful? You know, we can give and take advice about lots of things, but I’m assuming this topic is about writing.

      Taking Advice:

      To me, taking advice must be weighed and measured against what we already know. Let’s face it. There is good and bad advice out there.

      Here are a couple of writing related examples of how taking advice helps us:

      I haven’t used a blog tour company before; however, if I did, it’s been too long ago to remember, so let’s say you want to do a blog tour. Getting advice from others who have used a tour service can help lead to your decision. This is helpful because your advice comes from others who have been there. Their advice might also suggest new blog tour companies you never heard of, or sway you away from one you don’t want to use. It’s the same with doing other book promotions. We can seek advice before handing over our hard-earned money. This is helpful.

      A year ago, when I did the major revision on a series starter, I wasn’t sure which way to turn or if I should unpublish and revise the book. After discussing this with friends and hearing what they thought, I went to an author who had talked about this in a workshop. I needed to know if this was right for me. Her sound advice helped me in my decision.

      Not every piece of advice works for each person.

      Have you ever had too much advice leave you more confused? I have. What do you do when there is too much advice? In this case, too much isn’t helpful at all. I try to weigh the options and consider the sources of the advice.

      Giving Advice:

      That said, I’m careful about giving advice because I don’t want to offend someone who knows more than I could advise. Surely, I don’t want to come off as trying to sound like a know-it-all when I don’t. I fear I might’ve recently stepped over the line not too long ago.

      To sum it up, giving and taking advice can be both helpful and not helpful at the same time. This is all in my opinion, of course.

      This is a blog hop. Find the other bloggers in the challenge HERE. Thanks for reading.

       


      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

      Have a fabulous weekend.

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    • #AmWriting, 2019 Week 1: Time is Money~ Or Is It Something Else? #MFRWauthor

      Posted at 7:02 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on January 4, 2019
      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

      2019 Week 1: Doing it for Fun, Profit, or Other.

       

      🎉  Happy New Year!  🎉

      Look what’s back in 2019. For the heck of it, I checked the Marketing for Romance Writers 52-Week Blog Challenge page and found the first topic for this year. So, it looks like you have something to read over here on Fridays. These days I need a topic to get me going.

      Here’s a look back to the first topics in 2017 and 2018. (In 2017 my first post was the fifth week of the challenge.)

      Week One: Doing it for fun, profit, or other. I should make this about writing, huh? My mind went somewhere else for a moment. Ha-Ha.

      #AmWriting Time is Money ~ Or Is It Something Else? #MFRWauthor

      Why not all three?

      Fun:

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019Writing is fun. When it stops being fun, I’ll quit writing. However, I don’t know if I’ll be able to set it aside if the day comes. Writing calls to me. It would hurt so much if I couldn’t write. I’ve already said in an earlier post, if I don’t see changes in the upcoming year, I will stop publishing, which doesn’t mean I’ll stop writing. Would I continue to nurture what is published? I don’t know.

       

      All the other jobs that go hand-in-hand with writing aren’t fun, anymore.

       

      Profit:

      If you aren’t new here, you know I also write for profit—for survival—to live the Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019simple lifestyle I choose to live on my own. Simple in the true sense of the word. Without the book income, well, it’s too scary to think about. Writing for profit is an addition to the fun part.

       

      Other:

      • For my readers who wait patiently for the next story.
      • Self-satisfaction.
      • Pride.
      • My love of writing. Putting pen to paper or having my fingers on the keyboard soothes my soul.
      • To quiet the voices inside. If I allowed the voices inside to be let loose without writing the ideas down, Lord only knows what might happen. My head might burst.  😱  Would you be willing to take the chance of your head exploding? Not me. This takes me back to the question about writing when it’s no longer “FUN” and the ability to stop or not. How would I fill my time if writing wasn’t a part of my life?
      • I love creating characters and their stories.
      • ❤  I choose to believe in happily-ever-after, but I have considered adding an additional genre later on.

      What about you authors reading this post? Have you asked yourself why you write? For fun? For Profit? Other reasons?

      Authors taking part in this 2019 52-Week Challenge blog hop have answered the question in the topic this week. Check them out here.

      Thanks for reading!

      Note: I’m behind in reading last week’s blogs. I will catch up on this and last week.


      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, blog post #MFRWauthor Week 1 2019

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    • #AmWriting Week 52 #MFRWauthor ~ Lonely Church Pews

      Posted at 6:42 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on December 28, 2018
      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, 52-week blog challenge blog post wedding disaster, December 27, 2018, Pixabay image

      Week 52: Wedding Disaster.

      To quote: How time flies when we’re having fun. Isn’t this the truth? We’re coming up on our last week of 2018 and the fifty-second week in Marketing for Romance Writers 52-Week Blog Challenge Blog Hop. #MFRWauthor. How about that! Let’s have a party and hope it doesn’t lead up to a disastrous wedding reception.

      This week’s topic doesn’t much apply to me in the true sense of disaster.

      My first wedding wasn’t a disaster, but it put a black cloud over our wedding day. Our only guests at the wedding ceremony, besides my close friends, were my family. That’s right. None of my in-laws came to our little church wedding except his oldest brother’s wife. She and I had become good friends in the year and a half prior to our wedding.

      My family and friends sat on one side of the church.  The other side remained lonely. The reverend asked if we wanted to wait until his family arrived. I don’t know how my fiancé felt that day without them there, but his stubbornness in this matter distressed me. But hey, he wore cowboy boots to our wedding! How could I be upset with him?  ❤  Ha-Ha. (His were black.)

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance, wedding disaster blog post 52-Week Blog Challenge Post

      Backing up here a little, I’ll explain and give a little history. My husband hadn’t invited his mom and dad because they had been on bad terms for a long time—especially with his mother. Without knowing me, she put me in the same category as his ex-wife, which wasn’t good in her eyes. She’d left him and kept the kids hidden from him. His mom didn’t want to see him get hurt again, which I can understand, but she judged me in advance. When I met him, his ex had already been gone two years, and I understand he had gone through hell for a lot of that time. His daughters found him over thirty years later.

      His mom’s attitude added to my husband’s animosity toward her, so they didn’t receive an invitation. Before we married, we lived together, and she might’ve come over three times to bitch at him—ignoring me each time as if I wasn’t there. My father-in-law used to sneak over at night and didn’t have any problems getting to know me.

      My husband left it up to his brothers to attend our wedding or not. They chose not to. However, his brothers and I had grown close over the time he and I went together prior to our wedding. I understood they didn’t want to get on their mom’s bad side, but it hurt. They did come to the “after party” at our house.

      Mary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance author, 52-week blog challenge blog post, wedding disaster December 27, 2018

      My cake was similar to this two-layer with an additional small top layer.  The lace on the middle layer matches the lace covering my short wedding dress. I remember seeing my dad walking into my house carrying the cake so carefully! Normally, when my dad came to visit, he’d be in and out in a rush, but at our little party, I didn’t think he’d ever leave!

      Eventually my mother-in-law came around and things were great between us. She gave me her family recipes. She and my husband had reconciled not long after our wedding. I was pregnant with my second child when she passed away at the young age of fifty-seven. It shook up the whole family, and I’m glad we got to know each other and had enjoyed good years together.

      Other participants in this blog hop can be found HERE.


      Mary J McCoy-Dressel Books, 52 Week Blog Challenge Blog Post Week 24 Don't Take it Away,It’s been fun for me to be a participant in this blog challenge for the past two years. I’ve communicated with authors I never would have met outside of this challenge other than maybe through a couple writer’s groups we may share like the #MFRWauthor Yahoo marketing group. I don’t know what the future holds for this blog challenge, but I’m glad I joined in and wrote on the topics and weeks that I could. Cheers to the authors who participated each week and to those of us who did our best.

       

      Happy New Year to every one of you! Wishing you all the best in 2019.

      Happy Writing, authors.

      Happy Reading, readers. (This includes all of us.) ❤

      Hugs!


      Wedding Cake: Pixabay – jeremywongweddings

      Boots and Flowers: Pixabay.

      Featured Image: Pixabay BattershellTactical

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    • #AmWriting #MFRWauthor Week 50: It’s All About the Vacation

      Posted at 6:42 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on December 21, 2018
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      Wow, we have one more week to go in the 2018 Marketing for Romance Writers 52-Week Blog Challenge Blog Hop with our hashtag #MFRWauthor. I have no idea what the future holds for this challenge blog hop. If it has met its end, I’ll come up with something else in this time slot. If not, I fear I will become an absent blogger.

      Week 51: My Fantasy Vacation

      This is a big world. How can anyone limit it to one fantasy vacation? Income, on the other hand, can possibly limit a family to a once in a lifetime trip.

      For my fantasy trip, I wouldn’t need a travel partner, but I’d prefer one. I’m not Julia Roberts in Eat, Pray, Love nor am I Diane Lane in Under the Tuscan Sun.

      I don’t mind traveling alone across my country on a plane or train, but if I ventured on a fantasy vacation, I’d like to have a fantasy partner to travel with me. He can be my age with salt & pepper hair, or he can be younger with any hair. I’d also consider traveling with a best friend or with my boys and daughter-in-law where I wouldn’t have to impress anyone but myself.

      I live in a beautiful country, and there’s so much to see in all fifty states, but I’ll limit my fantasy vacation to one for this post.

      Like many Americans, I’d be interested in vacationing in other countries like Europe, Australia, and Canada. For the record, I have vacationed in Canada.

      pixabay imageFor this post, I’d love to plan a fantasy vacation around Tuscany, Italy. I can think of many reasons to visit this part of Italy—beginning with the food and Chianti—a fantasy in itself. I’d tour the country, visit wineries, and take cooking classes in a chef’s kitchen or an Italian grandmother’s home like in the movie Letters to Juliet.

      If I ever made it as faMary J McCoy-Dressel, western romance, blog post fantasy vacationr as Italy, I wouldn’t limit it to Tuscany. I’d love to see Milan, too. Oh, the shopping I’d do there on my fantasy vacation, beginning with purchasing red Valentino boots. Hey, it’s my fantasy! The woman who proofed the Italian in my Bull Rider Series lived in Milan on and off in her life and talked about it so lovingly.

      I’d make my way to Venice, which has been my fantasy vacation since way before I knew anything about a fantasy vacation. Greece would be my next stop on the way home.

      As I grow older, which is happening on an hourly basis, I might have other ideas, or even limit it to my country and be happy with my choices.

      As the year counts down, let’s go see what the Marketing for Romance Writers Blog Hoppers are planning for their fantasy vacation. We might get some new ideas for our next fantasy vacation.

      Safe Travels!

      All of the images came from Pixabay.

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    • #AmWriting To Brag Or Not To Brag #MFRWauthor

      Posted at 10:09 am by Mary J. McCoy-Dressel, on November 23, 2018

      Marketing for Romance Writers 52-Week Blog Challenge

      Week 47: Worth Bragging About

      Wow, we’re moving right along in 2018. It’s the day after Thanksgiving in the U.S.A., and today is Black Friday! Is anyone home to read this post? This topic is similar to a topic from last November.  As much as I hate bragging about myself, topics like this force me out of my comfort zone, so I do have a few updates I might be able to boast over a little. Let’s do it!

      Book Related:

      Since last November, I’ve published two books in the same series. I talked about these two as WIPs in last years post.

      Now, I have two more books started. One of my WIPs is in collaboration with a lot of other authors. Joining this group is something to brag about. You’ll see later when we start talking about this new endeavor.

      I started AMS Ads for three books. Yeah, I have to brag after being so terrified to try. (comfort zone)

      Home on the Range:

      Oh, I searched for my big girl panties and found them and pulled up my bootstraps, then I got out of the stressful environment I had been living in. I moved to give myself peace of mind. It took a big step in moving to the new place, too, but perseverance and prayers helped. After weighing the pros and cons, I made the final, right decision–that’s my brag.

      Due to health issues at the beginning of the year, I went back to walking and gave up eating things that are bad for my condition like red meat, fat, and sugar. It’s funny how easy it becomes once your life is in danger. I’ve lost thirty-two pounds, but I see other improvements besides weight loss. I’m not sure how much it has reversed my diagnosis, yet. Yeah, this is me bragging about my life-style change.

      This is my eleventh year of blogging. I’m far from becoming a top-notch blogger, but hey, it’s eleven years of sticking to it.

      Of course, like any mom, I am proud of what my kids have accomplished in their lives to date, but this is a brag that goes without saying.  ❤

      Thanks for reading. Please check out the other authors in the Blog Hop.

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